what is more sad than anything els my love is not just that you expected to be looked after by a govenment that will leave children to die because there parents cant afford insurance but that at 39 they have managed to persuade you that you are at the end of your life sell your house befoe prices drop and leave or go out and get a job you are from an era of women that anrnt supost to expect there husbands to support them so although i feel for your plite you have still got options althought if you do plan on emigrating i would advise learning english ( not the american basterdised form) and tring to pass your self of as anything but american as you can see from this site your not well liked as a nattion and not one of the serio types give over the years has been complimentory nd unfortunatly every time iv met 1 they have conformed .